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About Having and Giving

Funny how things start to change when you start to change your thoughts.

All of a sudden new customers appear from all quarters. It´s like I´m dreaming. “Can you make me a website?” “What about business cards?” “Do you offer personal coaching?” I now clearly see the law of attraction. I don´t think in terms of scarcity. I have everything I need, and if I need more, it will come. If it doesn’t, I don´t really need it. This philosophy is very handy! And it´s easy to include in our everyday life when one understands the perils associated with materialism.

 

I always lived with scarcity. I never had enough.

Or so I thought. I felt this way all the time, and nothing was good enough. But when I bought something, the pleasure it brought faded away very quickly. So I had to buy more and more things, blinded by the belief that filling my life with material objects was somehow cathartic. In fact, I had a professional guitar and a professional amp but I wasn´t a professional musician at all. I just thought I need this stuff to be a professional. Guess what? I was wrong. What’s more, I discovered that I had been wrong about many things throughout my life. I was a late bloomer, I guess. But it´s better to bloom late than never!

 

Apps, Ebooks and more

It was the same with apps and ebooks. It´s so easy to buy something very quickly considering that everyone with a smartphone maintains near-instant access to the world’s merchandisers whenever the impulse strikes. And you think, “It´s only 99 cents.” But it adds up. And do I really need 200 or more apps on my phone? Do I really need all this? I don´t think so. Of course, I wouldn´t give away my iPhone since it´s a very handy tool. But in reality, that’s all it is. And therein lies the paradox. A useful tool that implores many to rhetorically ask how man managed to live without them while simultaneously bringing the global marketplace – and unlimited materialism – to one’s fingertips.

 

Two apps I really need and recommend

  • iA Writer for iPhone and Mac.(I use this for writing articles for wordpress, for my variable costs list, and lots of other pages. It´s lightweight and comes without knick-knacks so I can concentrate on what´s really important. I also backup everything using dropbox and iA Writer, which is also very convenient.)
  • Wunderlist for iPhone and Mac. (It´s a very handy list manager tool for my ideas and lots more)

 

The media, family, friends and neighbors play a role in contributing to the consumption mindset, but the biggest contributor to my consumption was me.  

 

Nowadays I think before I buy something.

I read an article about “consumption” on zenhabits, which by the way is one of my favorite blogs, and where Leo Babauta wrote about a “30-day list.” I took his idea and included it in my daily routines. It’s such a simple method, but it never occurred to me. So every time I think I need something, I include it on my 30-day list. If I still think I need that item after 30 days, I buy it. But I don´t buy it directly. I first look on ebay and other platforms in search of used items. Thanks for that, Leo!

 

Variable costs

I also have a “variable costs” list. It might seem annoying but every single time I buy something, I put it on the list immediately. It has become a rule for me so I think twice before I buy something! This list is very helpful too. At the end of every month I see exactly how much I did spend on coffee, ebooks, music, tv shows  and so on. This gives me the transparency I need to estimate future expenses.

 

Give away stuff you don´t need

As I recently moved to another city, I gave away a lot of stuff I didn´t need or no longer used. There are some big online platforms which are all about giving. So I joined a community and gave away a lot of stuff and guess what, if felt devilishly good! I met a lot of people and most of them were very grateful, and I felt good about doing it. It´s a damn good feeling to give rather than to buy. Give it a try!

 

Stuff doesn´t bring you happiness

It´s always up to you as to how you feel. Nothing you buy will bring you freedom or happiness. (Well, not for long). You might think that a new car, a new laptop, a new house [put what you want in here!] will make you happy, but it won´t. It´s all up to you. I´m not suggesting that you cannot have nice things. Some things are good to have, but do you really need a new cellphone every year? Do you need the newest iPad in order to feel you fit in? It´s all just a big bubble and you are a part of it until you begin to see it for what it really is.

 

The Age of Worry

This seems like the perfect headline for my previous life. I have to thank the brilliant songwriter John Mayer for that. This song is on his latest album “Born and Raised” which I personally love. You may disagree with my taste in music but you know what they say…

 

Why did I always worry although life is just great? Why are you full of worries and fears?

Why can´t we just say – worry why should I care?

Well there´s a good answer to this question: We simply can!

 

We can turn our lives around; we can say go to hell, I don´t care about you anymore.
I’ve read so many books about self improvement, how to be happy and personal freedom but  Zen and the Art of Happiness really helped me.  It´s simply written and easy to understand. It is just a blessing! It will help you understand how your brain and the whole universe works and it will then tell you how you can achieve a certain point of view where everything that´s happening in your life is just for your own good. Everything. Not only the so-called good events.

 

Everything that happens to you is always the best that can happen!

It´s just as simple as that. Give it a try and you will see how everything will change for the better. I read a chapter everyday as a means of reinforcement to help keep me focused on my goals. And everytime I listen to The Age of Worry, I feel free and full of joy.

 

If you have a song, a poem, a quote or whatever, which helps you feel more positive and energized, you are heartily invited to add to the comments below. Help others feel better about themselves because there´s no need to feel sad or depressed. It’s all a choice. It’s only a matter of your inner point of view! Let the bad thoughts disappear.

 

I think that for the longest time in my life I was in love with suffering but I didn´t realize it.

Sorrow and depression where constants in my life and I couldn´t even imagine that there actually were many happy people out in the world.

I just thought, “Well, that´s just the way it is and there’s no way to turn my life around.” But that was a terrible mistake. Strangely enough, it wasn´t entirely terrible because without my background, I would not have been motivated to do what I´m doing right now – writing about the unhappiness that pervaded my life, taking action to turn my life around, and trying to help others who may feel themselves mired in misery.

 

So I guess everything that happend has been good in the long run.

I encourage you to buy Zen and the Art of Happiness from Chris Prentiss as it has been very helpful to me and I consider it one of the most important purchases I’ve ever made. Give it a try and let me know what you think. Feel free to drop me a line to provide feedback about the book, or to provide other thoughts or ideas you care to share.

One of my favorite books you definitely should check out!

Well, if you read the about me page you already know that I hated my life and I recognized that I had to change something.

I had to change and I´m glad that I actually did!

I read Zen and the Art of Happiness from Chris Prentiss and although I’ve previously read similar books, Zen really did change me and my whole point of view. I read it and then I read it again and after that I read it again.

Even now, after I read it about 5 times or so, I like to sit down for a few minutes and read one or two chapters just to keep things in mind and reinforce those aspects I feel are paramount to my own personal improvement. I was a slave of my negative thoughts for over 30 years and I guess it takes time for my subconscious to soak up the positive ideas and concepts described in this great book.

It helped me a lot and I thank Chris Prentiss for this and all the other books he published. I would love to meet him some day as he has literally saved my life and for that I am very grateful! Thanks, Chris!

I recommend this book and hope you give it a try! I´m not trying to push random shit on my readers. I just want you to be as happy as I now am and let everyone know that this book has significantly contributed to my improved attitude and outlook on life!